The Friendzone

MTV has this show called Friendzone, have any of you ever seen it? Well if you haven’t, the concept is that these 2 people who have been friend for more than a year ( sometimes even as long as 10) and are best friends to one another come on the show. One helps the other prepare for a “Blind date”.  They help them pick and outfit and coach them on things to do and things they shouldn’t, then they drive to wherever the date is supposed to be together. Once there, one professes their feelings for the other while telling them there really is no blind date. From then, the person who has been blindsided by this information either makes an admission of mutual admiration or, they tell their friend they don’t like them in a any romantic capacity.  If they say yes, they feel the same, the two folks go on the planned date. If they aren’t feeling it, they just walk away. Sometimes the show gives updates a few weeks later, sometimes they don’t. I watch that show every day and wonder why people let themselves get up in the friendzone to begin with. I couldn’t personally carry on a friendship with someone knowing that I feel something other than friendship from jump.

I just recently had a friend profess his love for me. We’ve been friends more than 10 years. He said he’s felt this way a long time. I had to admit, at one point, I liked him, but he never showed any interested so I didn’t trip off of it. Now we’re both practically married so I don’t know why he thought now was the time. He coulda kept that to himself.

So, I thought about it and I’m gonna tell you 5 ways how not to be put into the friendzone.

1. Don’t Act like a buddy.  When you meet someone that you know you’re interested in, don’t play it off like you aren’t. Acting like a friend will get you put in the friendzone real quick. Show you’re interest, it might work out in your favor. If it doesn’t, keep it pushin’, Did you really want a new platonic guy/girl friend anyway? Doubt it.

2.Be Upfront. Like I mentioned above, if you show you’re interested in someone it may yield positive results.  When you meet someone you’re attracted to, tell them, “Hey, I like you we should hang out.” If they don’t feel the same way, you’re not losing anything, you don’t know them like that anyway!

3. Don’t be a wing (wo)man. If you have taken a long time to come out with your feelings for this person, the worst thing you can do is help them find someone else. Don’t be the wingman for someone you have feelings for. By doing this, you push yourself further into the friendzone. Your friend is thinking, “He/She can’t be interested in me if she/he will help me pick up someone else.” You kind of dig your own grave here , so don’t do it!

4.Don’t Let too Much Time Pass. Say you met this person you like so much last month at a friends party. The two of you hit it off but there was no flirting, just conversation. You walk away feeling like you’d want more, but you hold that in. Fast Forward and it’s been a year and you guys are still just friends because you never said anything. Your friend is pretty positive you don’t like them “In that way” Because you never made a move, thus, you’re stuck in the friendzone while they date whoever they feel like it, namely, anyone but you!

5. Grow some balls. The jist of the entire post is, woman/man up! Be bold and upfront or you’ve just made another life long bestie who you pine over every evening writing their last name behind your 1st. Unless a friend you’re attracted to is what you’re in the market for, being bold is the only way to avoid that category.

Have any of you ever been in the friendzone? Did you make it out?

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4 thoughts on “The Friendzone

  1. Good advice. And I had never watched nor heard of that show but I hope to catch an episode here and there. Sounds like an interesting concept. The hopeless romantic within me finds it awesome that long-time friends are able to find romantic bliss. At the same time, I wonder if feelings that are one- sided will destroy the friendship?

    Don’t let too much time pass and be bold are two things that I’d probably give as advice myself.

  2. Nah I haven’t but I know a few who have for me but it was mostly from a distance. I was never interested in them. Well actually as I am typing, I gave one person a chance and he dumped me a month later. Lol

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