I know men always complain about women expecting them to be mind readers but recently I have come to realize we expect them to be mind readers too.
I know I’d told my honey plenty of times things I want from him as far as relationship goes. Like I need for him to call everyday, especially when he’s out-of-town. I need for him to want to come over instead of me telling him to, since we don’t currently live together full-time. I need him pay more attention to me when we are together since we don’t see each other all the time. These are things that I have expressed to him on more than one occasion and like most people, he does what I need him to for a time and then slowly reverts back to the way things were before.
instead of me constantly telling him that he needs to do/be better I start to shut down. I don’t want to feel like a broken record and I am not the nagging type. I want him to know what I want without me having to constantly say it.
Recently we had a conversation about our relationship. He told me he doesn’t know whats bothering me unless I speak up and since I’m so easy-going he doesn’t know I’m upset about something until I start doing that shutting down thing I mentioned. My response to that is, I’ve told you before, why do I have to tell you again!? It’s like he only has short-term memory sometimes.
I feel like I don’t ask a lot from anyone so the things I do ask for, I need them done.
When we are together it’s typically lovely. We hang out. We laugh, we joke, we have sexy time and all is right with the world. When we aren’t together he slacks off and I can’t stand that.
But I’ve come to realize something. I need a life! Like one that doesn’t center around Jas 24/7 and one that isn’t centered around Honey. I need a life! I think once I get one then I won’t get myself worked up over such small things in my relationship ( And im not saying that the things I get most pissed about are small because to me they aren’t) because I will be too busy with my own life to sweat them.
Do any of you ever feel like you want your spouse to read your mind and just know? Do you ever feel like you need a life of your own?