So after 2 years of being 3000 miles apart my love is coming home! *dances a jig*
He got a job working a little more close to home. He’s going to be in Northern California in San Francisco which is about 8hrs away from Southern California and a good hr away flying.
Although I go through periods where I really miss him and wish he was here with us everyday, I’ve grown quite used to the distance and not seeing him all the time. So when he has to start his new gig it will be okay.
It is truly a blessing that he was offered a job close to home. He had to step out on faith and decided it was the best choice for him right now. He packed up all of his supplies and Sunday afternoon started the long drive from the east coast back to the west coast.
He’ll be back in town on Friday at some point and I am as usual, excited to see him. Jasmine makes sure to tell me often that “daddy gon take me and Kayla to the park, he’s just at YaYa(his mom) house.”
The park is the last thing they did together before he left and YaYa’s house is the last place she remembers seeing him. It’s like her mind hits pause every time he leaves and she will talk about the last time she saw him until she sees him again. Needless to say, we’re excited 🙂
On another note:
I received a letter in the mail from child support. Apparently they have been unable to find this dude since I filed back in March of 2010 and now they would like my assistance in providing information that would be helpful to them. Y’all, I’m tired of this! I’m not concerned with his whereabouts or his money( or lack there of). I’ve done a great job is I do say so myself of supporting myself and jasmine for the past almost 2.5years and I have no need for anything from him and neither does Jas. We’re good!
My mom thinks I should provide any info I have because he SHOULD be financially responsible for Jasmine if nothing else. My honey feels like she doesn’t need SHAT from him. She has a DADDY and she’s better off without him since its obvious he’s not mature enough to take of his responsibilities.
I agree with them both in a since. It’s like, I didn’t make her myself so I should be the only one taking care of her. However, in reality, I knew I could end up being the sole parent. As women(and some men), we have to be prepared( married or not) to be the sole parent because our partners can walk away, and sometimes they do. In my case, he wasn’t there from the start so it’s very easy for me to dismiss him. It’s not like he was there and he left.
I say all that so say, I don’t know what to do really. I don’t want to be involved in any fuckery involving sperm donor. I don’t care where he is or about his money. I don’t want to make myself unnecessarily upset in regards to that situation but, should I do it for Jasmine?
I don’t know y’all. I really don’t. . . but my babe will be here Friday!