So lets talk about relationships here for a minute if y’all don’t mind. As you all know I am currently in a long distance relationship with my honey. I don’t know how many of y’all have ever been in one but it’s seriously one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. Unless you are truly committed to this person, don’t even bother attempting a LDR. It’s a lot of patience and understanding.It also takes extraordinary amounts of love. I’m telling y’all, If I didn’t know for fact that this man is the one I am supposed to spend the rest of my life with, I would definitely call it quits. Also, If I didn’t have Jasmine and it was just me, I probably wouldn’t have been able to be in a LDR this long. We’ve been doing this since June of 2010( the long distance part, we’ve been together since May 2009) and it doesn’t get any easier. I just have to remind myself constantly that him being away now is so that we can all be together later.
Now that I’ve said all that, let me tell y’all what my biggest gripe is, COMMUNICATION! My honey has thee biggest issue keeping up with communication. now I don’t mean that he doesn’t communicate how he’s feeling with me. I mean, I expect to talk to him EVERYDAY and he slacks on that. It irks me to no end! We’ve had plenty of discussions about this very thing and the lack of communicating had me ready to throw in the towel last year when he was in NY. If my buddy( waves at my buddy) hasn’t talked me down, it would have been over at that point. Honey went to Texas this past April for work and we talked everyday, more than once a day. It was everything I wanted him to do and more. Now he’s back in NY and the communication is lacking again. I figured out why earlier. In Texas he didn’t know anyone at all. He had no one to hang out with at all so he could focus on me all the time. Now he’s back in NY where he knows people and they are occupying his time. The problem with that is, he’s allowing his friends there to be a priority over me. I’m not the type that NEEDS a bunch of attention which is evident from the Fact that I am in a LDR. I do however want to feel like I’m being thought of and missed and what not. Right now, at this present moment I’m not feeling that way(hormones y’all, that womanly war if ya know what I mean) and that is a horrible feeling.
Once I’m over being annoyed enough to snap off ( my current state of mind) I’ll talk to him about how I am feeling. I need him to do better. There isn’t much more to it.