I have stopped trying to potty train my child. I am kind of over it right now. When she tells me she’s ready is when I will begin again. She traumatized me a tad last weekend. Instead of popping in the potty that I put in the living room so that she could sit and not be in the restroom alone, she went and pee’d AND pooped in her bed! I didn’t know what to say for a good 10 mins. I took the sheets she had on her bed and threw them in the trash. I ran her bath water. I wiped her butt when some wipes. I put her in the tub and washed her up without a word. Then I explained to her how GROSS what she did was. She even got a spanking because it was unacceptable. She KNOWS better, but if she wants to pee and poop in her diapers then I am okay with that for now because I cant!

My honey called me yesterday just because. I love when he does that. He also asked what I wanted for valentines day. I don’t think he realizes that I don’t celebrate that “holiday”. I like to feel loved and appreciated everyday, not just because the calender says Valentines day is the day to do it.  However, since he wants to, I’ll play along. February 14th is my granny’s 83rd birthday. Gonna celebrate that all day! lol

Speaking of my Granny, my aunt had the idea of making her a family calender for her birthday. Next weekend my fam is gonna get together and have some pictures taken for the calender. Each family ( my granny had 9 kids ) is gonna have a family photo taken and each month will focus on one of the families in order of birth. My mom is the 4th born so we’ll occupy the month of April

My pandora goes from playing something sexy to playing Smokey Norful. I can’t with them and their random selections. They also try and slide in alternative music on my R&B station. I need them to get it together STAT!

My favorite white blog sista is coming to cali for work next month. I am planning on hugging her. She says she hates hugs. . . O.O< === That’s me not caring about her dislike of hugs. Let me tell ya, Jas doesn’t care either! lol

I’m on the hunt for a new job. I’m also on the hunt for a larger place to live. I need to make more money and I need to not be in the same room with Jasmine anymore. She talks in her sleep very loudly. Most nights I can ignore it but last night. . .The child was growling in her sleep! She also yelled out more than once, “NO! DON’T TOUCH THAT!” I don’t know who was bothering her but she was pissed about it.

Lately my phone as been annoying the crap outta me. I called Tmobile and complained about my touch screen doing whatever the hell it wanted. The guy I spoke with told me there was an update that should fix all of my issues. I downloaded it yesterday morning and when my phone powered back up after the update, it looked like a brand new phone! I love all the new features. As long as it doesn’t start trippin again, I may keep it for awhile longer.

It’s suppose to rain this weekend in So. Cali. Im kinda mad about it because I wanted to take poopy. . . I mean Jas to the park so she could get her play on. Doesn’t look like that’s gonna be going down.

I’ve been feeling kind of Blah lately. I don’t know what that’s about. After the rain passes maybe I’ll do my hair and dress up a bit and see if that helps my mood.

Thats all for what’s on my mind. What ya’ll got going on?

*hi Deja*

on Saturday, I washed Jasmine’s scalp only. I rinsed it with warm water and towel dried it lightly. Let me not forget to mention I did all of this while her hair was still braided.

I unbraided her hair and added Shea Butter Detangling Moisturizing Hair. This stuff works wonders for getting all the tangles out. I don’t even have to use a comb. I just pour some in my palm, rub my hands together and run my fingers through her hair. Easy as that, all the tangles are gone. I highly recommend this product. I even use it on my own hair after its been washed.

I just picked up a new product from target. It’s the Shea Moisture Organic Curl Enhancing Smoothie This stuff smells SO good and its sooo soft. It was on sale so I grabbed one.

After detangling her hair I added a generous amount of the smoothie to her hair. I worked it in with my fingers and pulled apart some of the curls for definition. I brushed her edges back a little and slid on a headband. That was it.  Here are a few pics of how it turned out. . .

She had quite a bit of shrinkage but that was to be expected. What I liked most was that her hair stayed very soft all day. I was able to run my fingers through it and it was bouncy and shiny.

I used the Smoothie on my own hair yesterday after I washed it and for the exact same results. I had nice full curls all day and did a dry Bantu knot out for today and my hair is big and fluffy and soft.

I only have good things to say about both products. It’s very rare that I let Jasmine wear her hair free but I see now I can as long as I have Shea moisture and Kids Organics handy.

*disclaimer* I was not paid to review these productions. All opinions are my own.

However, if anyone wants to send me free stuff, I’ll take it! lol

We had a great Christmas! My child is THEE BEST person to give gifts to. She LOVES everything and makes sure you know it. We woke up around 8am on Christmas morning. My niece Deja spent the night with us *Hi Deja!*. Jas was in a good mood so I thought it was be a good time to let her open the gifts she had at home. I didn’t get her much because she has plenty of toys as it is.

1st I let her open a pair of Minnie Mouse slippers on friend got her. She was VERY excited about these slippers! *these are taken with my cell phone so please excuse the quality*Then she opened a pair of Yo Gabba Gabba undies After that she opened her V-Tech blackberry as I like to call it lol

After Jasmine had opened all of her gifts, she insisted on taking off her Pj’s so she could wear her slippers and new undies smh. Of course I let her.

here she is in her slippers and one 1 but 2 pair of Yo Gabba Gabba undies

After she was done with gifts we headed over to my parents house for our annual Christmas breakfast. I always look forward to this because my dad can throw down on some breakfast! Everyone came over for the 10:15 call time ( except my honey due to his daughters mom antics Christmas morning ). My dad is also an excellent prayer. He said his prayer and like every year since we’ve been having this breakfast I shed a few tears. After his prayer, we all lined up like a chow line and filled out plates with some grub.

After breakfast we opened the gifts at my parents house. My folks got me some new fancy cookware. My old cookware was cheap and starting to fall apart so this was much needed. I also got some Bath and Bodyworks. Loves it!

Jasmine got her Cheshire cat pianoshe also got her Minnie Mouse chair! I wish I would have recorded her reaction. It was priceless. She screamed, jumped up and down, yelled, it was awesome!Then my mom handed her a bag full of clothes! This little chicky was in heaven!

After all that excitement, We got dressed( sadly I don’t have any pictures of how cute I looked)

Notice the pretty bow her blog Auntie Christina sent her for her bday. She'll fight you about her bows! lol

Someone gave my child a tube of chapstick and she is addicted! She applies it every 5 seconds. It’s in her hand in all of these pictures. Can you see it? lol

My sister was able to get her entire gang together and pose for a few family pics. I love them!

If no one else is ready, Deja always is! lol

Soon after Deja, Jasmine, My bestie and I all headed to my bestie’s parents house in the Valley for Christmas dinner. Her mom does huge Christmas stockings with goodies in them. She also got Jasmine a Disney Fairies sleeping bag. She LOVED it.

After a few hours there we headed back to my parents house. I hugged and kissed my parents and thanked them for a great Christmas. Jas and I headed home and enjoyed each others company and talked to Daddy on the phone who was finally hanging out with his children together ( I’m sure I’ve mentioned that he has a son as well as a daughter right? lets pretend I have if I haven’t lol)

That was our Christmas. Aside from a few kinks it was great. Christmas is truly one of my favorite holidays. I truly hope Jasmine never loses her enthusiasm about gifts she receives. She makes the giver feel extremely special.

I am extra honored that she thinks so much of me. Shes such a cool chicky and one of my fav folks to chat with on the Twatter.

With this award I am suppose to reveal 7 things about myself and pass the award on to 10 other bloggers so here it goes. . .

I’ve been wearing glasses since the 8th grade. not just because I love the way they look on me but more so because I CAN NOT put anything in my eye. It freaks me out.

I used to have a thing for much older guys. I have no idea why this was. I think it made me feel much more mature. The guy I lost my virginity to was 27 going on 28 and I had just turned 19.

While my child birth with Jasmine was traumatic for all involved, I still want to have one more child. I can’t see Jas being an only child.

I am a complete mama’s girl. I still call her mommy and although I am 31 I will climb in her bed and lay my head on her chest. She’s my #1 best friend ever.

I have seriously considered plastic surgery on my stomach. Anyone who has lost weight know that the extra skin is not cute! no matter what I do, this skin isn’t going anywhere.

I don’t like mornings and I don’t like people talking to me when I 1st wake up. I need a minute. The only person who can talk to me 1st thing in the morning is Jas. She can’t help herself. She likes to tell me she “woke up”

I talk to myself aloud when im alone. Like if I need to talk to someone about something, I’ll have the full blown conversation aloud by myself 1st. I guess its kind of like a pep talk for myself. *shrug*

ok thats 7 things about me and I have no idea who to tag because Amber tagged a lot of the people I would tag myself lol so if you guys get this twice im sorry ( not really but kinda (

Miss Mile High

Being Mrs. Jones

Lip Gloss and Binky

Mrs.TDJ

Tha Infamous Nobody

Gorgeous Puddin

The Pro Diva

Shea’s What

Keyalus

K.Rock

*smooches*

Speaking of honey, he has been plotting on my uterus since he’s been in town. I told y’all to pray for me but I think y’all haven’t been. lol * lord be a shield around my precious fallopian tubes* AMEN!

Jas and daddy have been having a good ol time since he’s been in town. I love their relationship so much. I’m glad she has someone like him in her life. She’s been clinging to him like a shadow and its gonna be really sad when he has to go. .  again

Jas and daddy playing with her Toys

Daddy reading to Jas

We were suppose to spend Christmas morning together at my parents house for our traditional Christmas breakfast. Honey ended up not being about to make it because his daughters mom played her trump card like she does every time he comes into town and had him running around trying to see his daughter. When will the madness end with this broad? ugh!

Christmas was beautiful as usual. I love, love, LOVE spending time with my family. I love seeing everyone together. It makes my heart smile.

Honey’s mom called me last night to vent about what went down on christmas with her granddaughters mom. She said she is gonna cuss the chick out 1st chance she gets. All I could say was, I’m glad y’all love me! lol

My future mother and sister in law got me a gift card for some grub and they also bought Jas a beautiful dress! She loved it and kept holding it up to herself and saying how pretty it was. she even posed for a few pics with. I really love that my child is so into her own fashion at such a young age.

Jas’s play area turned out perfect!  She loves it, although she loves the way I rearranged the living room even better because she prefers to play on my couches! lol

New play area

I have to do a christmas post. Jas is awesome because she LOVES everything and it shows in her excitement while opening gifts. She makes people feel so special lol

I think I’m gonna have to really consider moving to another state. I mean I don’t wanna think about it right now but the possibility is real and I am going to have to make a choice sooner than later it seems.

And this is my Beautiful little girl Jasmine

They're even more lovely when they're sleep right!? lol

ok, ok here’s a better view

When I became a mother I had all these things on a list of stuff I’d do and wouldn’t do. One of those things was not to let my child have a paci past a certain age. I planned to have her off of it by her 1st birthday. That time came and went and the paci or “BoBo” as she calls it stuck around.

Jasmine’s relationship with “Bobo” began the day she was born. The nurses at the hospital gave her the beloved Bobo and she’s been hooked ever since

Here she is at 3 days old. Her and Bobo were already attached

As the weeks passed her desire for the Bobo for comfort only grew

The day she turned one month old

She used the one from the hospital so much that I had to search online to find the brand they used. The Gumdrop that wasn’t sold in stores at the time. I ordered her 2 spare Bobo’s and life was good. That is, until she started to talk! I must say one of my biggest pet peeves is children who can talk but still suck paci’s. It’s not just talking, it’s talking with them in their mouths. My child was known for doing this and it worked my nerves!

Jasmine would have that Bobo clipped to her clothes until she went to bed at night up until she was 15 months old. After that, I decided she didn’t NEED it all the time and only would give it to her when she was fussy.

Then the day came when she bit a hole in the nipple. I debated at that point having her go cold turkey but my sanity couldn’t take it. I restricted her usage to nap and bedtime only. She was no longer allowed to walk around with it and she was also told NOT to chew on it.

This had been working pretty well until she would lose it in her bed and wake me at God forsaken hours to find the damn Bobo. This didn’t go on long. I learned how to ignore her waking me until she could do without it unless she found it herself in her bed.

I was perfectly fine letting her sleep with it until last Monday when I took her to the Doctor. Dr. Emeil is her new Doctor so we went for a check up. He said she was perfect. Then he asked did she use a paci.

Dr: She’s still using a paci?

Me: Yes but only for sleeping

Dr: You should have gotten her off of that thing months ago

Me: I know but, I need my sleep and sanity, she’s like a fiend for that paci

Dr: And you’re like the paci pusher because you continue to supply it even thought she does not need it

That conversation hit home for me. I WAS the Bobo pusher. If I would have tossed them when she started biting holes in them, she would have already been over it. But EYE couldn’t take her crying and whining for it so EYE gave in EVERY.TIME. I felt bad. .  a little. When we left there I had resolved that Monday December 12th would be the last day a Bobo would be in our house.

I prepped Jasmine on the way home from Daycare telling her that Bobo was going in the trash when we got home. That she was a big girl and she didn’t need it anymore. We argued all the way home about it being thrown away. Her saying:

Jas: No Bobo in the trash!

Me: Yes baby it’s going the trash

Jas: No it not!

Me: I don’t care what you say, it’s going in the trash!

Jas: No, No BOBO IN DA TRASH!!!!

Me: You’ll see!

As soon as we got home she made her way up the stairs and straight to her bed to grab her Bobo. I told her to hand it over! She did so with tears and I went and tossed it. I poured something gross on top so I wouldn’t be tempted to get it out.

She went to bed that night with no issues. She asked for Bobo once before she went to bed and I thought it was a success! That is, until 1230am when she woke me up. She was whining so I let her get in my bed. I knew she needed some comfort since that’s what Bobo was for her. She cuddled up next to me . . . and decided it was time for a conversation.

Jas: Mommy. .

Me: Yes. . .

Jas: Mommy, Bobo in the trash?

Me: Yes baby, it’s in the trash

Jas: Oh. . .

Then she went on to ask me some other random things to which I told her, ” Child, it’s bedtime, not talk time. Go to sleep”

She did and I was happy. Then she woke me up at 145am to talk to me again. I was over it! I told her to take her tail to sleep! She whined a little but eventually rolled over and went to sleep.

She woke me up AGAIN at 245am to talk some more. I told her I was tired and was going back to sleep. I turned my back to her. She whined a little more but she eventually went back to sleep.

My sister comes and stays at my house sometimes. She has a key so I don’t ever hear her come in. That night(morning?) I roll over and Jas isn’t laying next to me anymore. She’s not in her own bed and I see lights flickering from the living room. I get up and go in there to find what you might ask?

I found Jasmine laying on the couch next to my sister eating a piece of sandwich cheese like its lunch time and light outside. It was 430am and she’s cheesing up at me like the Cheesier cat eating a square of cheese! She says, ” Hi mommy! I got cheese!” To which I promptly responded, “I don’t care what y’all do, I’m going back to bed”

Back to bed I went. I hear Jas come back in a while later. I look up and its 5am and she’s climbing back into my bed. To do you what? You guessed it, talk to me! I told her I was tired, I wasn’t in the mood to talk and was going back to bed. I told her she could either be quiet and go to sleep or she could get back in her own bed. Her response, ” I go get in my own bed!” with all the 5am tude she could muster. I didn’t care one bit.

She tried twice to go back and bother my sister but I heard her trying to creep out and told her to get her tail back in her bed. She finally stopped playing at 515am and went to sleep for real.

That was just night one!

The rest of the week went much better. She’s only asked about Bobo 3 times and we only had to discuss it once.

Me: I put Bobo in the trash because you’re a big girl, you don’t need it anymore. Big girls don’t use Bobo’s. Do you understand?

Jas: No! I not understand!

Me: Well you should try to understand

Jas: No! I not wanna understand!

Me: Oh well, I guess you’ll get over it.

Jas: I not get over it!

Me: ok *shrug*

And that was the last time we discussed it. I assume she got over herself and understood!

It’s been 9 days and I can say Mission No BoBo has been a success. I can say that if anyone out there is thinking of weaning, it’s not so bad. That 1st night was hell but the rest of the days have been progressively easier with her asking for the Bobo less and less. She still wants to snuggle up with her blankie and I am completely alright with that.